Am I Too Late?


Don’t think it is possible to reverse a trend that has been years in the making. When you get old like me, you reflect back on the years and try to see how you got from there to here. It can be an interesting thing to ponder. That arc of our lives.

How did I ever become that guy who is so critical of restaurant experiences? The thing is, I still love to go out to eat, and I still know how to have a good time when I do go out. However, I am afraid that if some alien landed on this planet today, and for some reason decided to read this blog, I would not be looked on in a favorable light.

Whine, whine, whine

I wasn’t always this way. Just ask my wife. Hmm, maybe you’d better not. Perhaps, instead I can blame it on this blog writing thing–at least some of it.

Like the rest of us, I have a finite amount of time left on this planet. How can I assure myself of a good time til it’s all over? I am tired of my daughter making sure that I sit facing a wall whenever we go out, so I can’t see what is going on in the restaurant. I am tired of being the only one who notices that the poor old woman sitting over in the corner is being completely ignored by her server. I am tired of being the one who notices that the hostess is putting way more energy in to flirting with the bartender, than she is to the six people standing at the front door wondering if they are to seat themselves or wait for help…

I owe it to my wife

So, how can I find a way to create content for this blog, content which I kid myself in to believing is often useful for restaurant owners–many of whom don’t have a clue as to what they are doing–without having it interrupt a good time? How can I do that, but at the same time make sure I am still enjoying myself? That I am still pleasant company for my dear, better half?

I have appealed to you before–the two people who read this thing–and yet, I am still waiting for answers…



7 Comments Add yours

  1. Lc says:

    I think you are right…it’s become social hour for staff…who’s cool in the room…not about the experience anymore…I still believe it is the professionals of service that survive the trends and weather the economic storms…give a damn about how a plate looks walking into the dining room…the blessed few who break through the 5 yr death knell of the industry to know their customers names and not give a damn whether they’re at the top of yelp reviews!

    1. Tom Bethel says:

      You are so right, Liz! Thank you!

  2. Paul says:

    Tom, the insights of a true industry professional are always welcome.

    1. Tom Bethel says:

      Thank you, Paul. You are correct, we are always needed out there.

  3. Jane Morrill says:

    Good luck with that. I worked as a cleaning lady once and I have noticed dust ever since. My Scott stops me when I start stacking plates while dining out – he tells me I am out having a good time and the server can do it. He is my off button. Perhaps your wife needs to give you some sort of off button too – then you can have permission to just let it go. Mind you, your eating out and getting blog content is so cool (from my perspective).

    1. Tom Bethel says:

      Thank you for some perspective, Jane. I will continue to fight the good fight, and attempt to enjoy myself at the same time.

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