My Wife’s Dining Experience

Or as I like to call it, the two lady treatment.  It is a dirty shame when my wife, (who by the way is adorable, knows food, and is a big tipper), dines out without me, or with other women, and gets less than she deserves when it comes to service.  Really?  Some servers still do that?

Remember we don’t assume

It isn’t just her,  I observe this behavior towards female diners often when I go out.  Why is that?  Do the servers still believe in those old stereotypes?  “Oh, they aren’t going to spend any money,” “they probably are going to sit there and talk for hours,” “another lousy tip…”  Wow.

This isn’t always the case, but unfortunately it is all too often.  And boy do I get to hear about it when it is like that.

I am happy to report that at her last dinner out, she and her female friend were treated like queens.  Their server made no such negative assumptions as to what they were going to be like to wait on, treated them with attention and respect, and was rewarded appropriately at the end of the meal.  And I got to come home to a happy wife.  (So, thank you.)

We are here to provide a service

It continues to be my wish that all diners will be treated with the utmost care and respect.  I wrote before about how it is important to never assume anything about a customer.  That applies to all customers.

It can be so easy in the restaurant world to go down that negative path, and then have it spill over to the customer.  But, as we get older we all need to fight that desire to be curmudgeonly–especially if we are to continue in the hospitality business.  And as I have mentioned on more than one occasion:  It starts with you…


3 Comments Add yours

  1. Natalie says:

    So.. Tom.. Are you going to tell us where she went?

    1. Tom Bethel says:

      Sorry. Not Sorry.

  2. bormax says:

    I can’t count the number of times I have experienced the “single lady” or “two lady” treatment. It still amazes me, since I, like so many women, have worked in food service, tend to appreciate good service and tip accordingly.

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